My First Mothers Day

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It is our pleasure to announce the newest member of the Beyond Frosting team, baby Dell. 

a baby wrapped in a Star Wars Swaddle

He made a swift and early entrance into our lives. I didn’t even get the chance to write my final third trimester blog post or our maternity shoot pictures,  and the last belly photos I shot were from 36 weeks. However, I’m happy he didn’t make us wait any longer to meet him! 

Our little peanut was just over 7 pounds and 20 inches long. Everyone is healthy and doing great. 

These last several days have been awesome, stressful, intense and emotional. All things you’d expect first-time parents to feel.

The hardest part, (besides the lack of sleep) has been figuring out the right feeding schedule. Since he was early and still very young we needed some extra calories for him and have been supplementing the breast feeding with formula.

The flood of emotions and hormones are also no joke. During our first couple hours home, I had the baby to myself and I started to read him On the Night You Were Born and I just started bawling my eyes out and then laughing at myself, it was so ridiculous.

a baby wrapped in a swaddle blanket with his hands in his face

We are finally feeling like things have settled and we have a good routine going and we are even getting some sleep at night. The first week home though, wow! The days fly by and the nights were long.

Some of my favorite things have been the baby snuggles (obviously) but also watching my husband become a father. He is more than an equal partner in this, we each have our roles and we take care of each other.

I love watching him bond with our son, and they get lots of one on one time together. He keeps telling me to slow down and relax and do less, but that’s also hard for me to do. I’m trying, but it’s not in my nature.

We went for our first family walk a few days ago, I felt like I hadn’t seen the outside since before I went into labor. I’d done that walk 5-6 days a week during my second and third trimester and always pictured that one day I’d be pushing a stroller.

a baby wrapped in a swaddle blanket

Still though, it’s hard to believe sometimes that I am a mother now. This tiny little human is so reliant on me, and it’s somewhat surreal and it’s only the beginning. I’d do anything for this tiny human. 

So far he’s a great sleeper (fingers crossed!), he loves to have his hands up in his face at all times, and he is constantly breaking out of the swaddle, no matter how hard we try.  He’s got the most perfect little cheeks and tiny lips. He makes all sorts of faces when he we are waking him up to eat. I can’t wait for him to wake up from his naps. 

Sometimes I look at him and he still so tiny, and other times I think, gosh he’s growing so quickly! 

A mom holding her newborn

It’s certainly a unique time to be welcoming a baby into this world, but truly I feel blessed that my husband’s job has a generous paternity leave, and he has been and will be working from home for a while. We are using this time to relax, bond as a family and figure out this parenting thing one day at a time.

There’s no one way to do any of this, and that’s been stressful but also reassuring. As someone who like a concrete plan, I am growing to understand that being flexible is the new normal.

I am so grateful. Grateful for our son, who’s healthy and growing and doing new things every day. I am grateful for my husband, I could not have gotten through any of this without him. I am grateful for our little family, and the space and time for us to figure it out.

For now, I am going to soak up all the snuggles I can.

babys feet photo

My Birth Story

Around 8:30am I started waking up for my morning workout and when I got up to use the bathroom, I knew something had happened, but I was not convinced that my water had broken.

We had a checkup the day before, and I had been dilated 1cm already for the previous 2 weeks and was nearly 100% effaced. The baby has been dropping lower and lower each week.

However, I had read that water breaks on it’s own in only 10% of pregnancies, I was not convinced this was it. Plus, I had only very mild cramping. Surely these weren’t contractions.

I was actually going to get dressed for Zumba but my husband told me I should probably chill. He was right.  I decided that that morning I would go to my scheduled Chiropractor appointment and that I’d check in with my doctor’s office.

The next hour my cramps got a bit stronger but walking around helped. I was starting to realize that just maybe I was in labor.

By the time I got home from the Chiropractor at 11:30, my doctor told me I should get checked to see what was happening. So, we ate lunch, picked up the house a bit, gathered our bags and headed to their offices.  

maternity shoot with belly photo
Photo courtesy of Kimberly Kay Photography

At 1pm, my doctor confirmed that my water had indeed broken, and I was nearly 3cm dilated. We had attempted to track my contractions, but it never really worked out and I didn’t feel like they were that bad, it was hard to tell when they were coming.

We decided to go home and be more comfortable, and my doctor told me to check in at the hospital by 5pm. That’s didn’t last long.

Once we got home, my contractions definitely intensified over the next hour and I decided we needed to go to the hospital at 2pm. I knew by the time I would be admitted that I would not be comfortable anymore. The ride the hospital was a quiet one for me as I focused all my energy on breathing. I did not like having to sit down.

Once we arrived at the hospital, we were greeted by staff members in full PPE gear, we had to get our temperatures checked before we could enter. My husband wheeled me up to labor and delivery, at which point I couldn’t really speak much. Immediately upon arriving to our room, I got super sick to my stomach. I hadn’t even gotten into my gown yet.

maternity shoot with umbrella
Photo courtesy of Kimberly Kay Photography

As we settled in, I could hardly open my eyes and my husband had to do all the speaking for me. They gave me some medicine to take the edge off and I wasted no time asking for an epidural.

An hour later, around 3:30pm I had the epidural and I was much much more comfortable, I finally could open my eyes and look around.

The epidural was something I had a lot of fear and anxiety over, but it was as painful as I thought it would be, and my husband and our nurse patiently helped me through the whole thing. At this point I was 5-6cm dilated.

They expected me to progress about 1cm an hour, meaning we would be meeting our little boy in the next few hours. I was still in disbelief it was happening. The next few hours were far more comfortable, and I tried to rest.

Sure enough, by 8pm I was ready to push. Just about 40 minutes later, he was out in the world. It was a pretty wild experience- not in the sense that it was chaotic but just how fast everything happened.

mom and dads hands laid over babys hands

I have no idea how women labor for long periods of time and I have so much respect for those of you who’ve been through it. I felt tired even after that short period of time and it definitely took a few minutes for me to come to and realize what all had just happened.

I felt a huge relief once I knew he was out. After months, even years spent fearing the pain and difficultly childbirth, we had done it. I was very lucky to have such a smooth and straightforward delivery. I went into it with an open mind and with a flexible birth plan and I think that helped.

A mom holding a baby for the first time

They quickly cleaned him up and laid him on my chest and I looked down into his big open eyes. He was quiet at first, and it was very peaceful, we definitely had to wake him up a bit before he let out those first few cries.

My husband watched and helped through the whole birth and cut the cord. He was equally as excited to meet our baby boy and touch his soft skin for the first time.

Over the next hour we laid there, and I tried to breastfeed for the first time. Thank goodness for the nurses who are right there to help me through it.

Eventually he got his height and weight checked and all looked over. Then my husband got to hold him for the first time. It was so cool to see that, it seemed like the baby was even looking into his eyes. 

a dad holding his baby for the first time

We spent the next day and half in the postpartum recovery room. I am so thankful that my husband was able to stay with us. We did have to stay in our room, but as first-time parents, we didn’t know any different.

The hospital offers a “celebration service” where you can order a mini cake and some sparkling cider, so we celebrated his 1-day old birthday, sang to him and had a few bites of cake. His first cake was a chocolate chip bundt cake.

Before we knew it, it was time to head home. Leaving the hospital was quite an emotional experience for us, one I had not anticipated. It seems like time hasn’t slowed down since we got home.

Thank you for all your kind messaged and well wishes when we shared the news of his arrival. I can’t wait to get back into the kitchen and bake with him.

A mom and dad looking at their newborn sitting in a rocking chair

67 Responses
  1. Elizabeth

    The days ( and nights!) can be long, but, boy, are the years short! I think the pandemic has allowed new parents to slow down and enjoy so much more without the expectations we had previously and unnecessarily put on them.

    1. Beyond Frosting

      It sure has, we are grateful for the extra time together as a family, especially for my husband who gets to spend more time with our son!

  2. Beverly Helland

    Enjoy all the special times with your little guy! As others have said, time goes by fast, but you will have so many great memories to savor. Bev (mom, grandmother, great-grandmother)

  3. Nicole Conant

    What a beautiful story, Jules, thanks for sharing it! And welcome baby Dell, kiddo is very lucky to have you two for parents.

  4. Sue Marino

    I am so happy for you and your husband. It is the most wonderful event in both your lives. There is so much fun and happiness for years to come.

    1. Angie

      Congratulations..what a precious baby. You did well for a first time delivery, regarding labor. I’m glad all went smooth.
      Happy Mother’s Day💐

  5. PATRICIA SCHENCK

    He is absolutely beautiful and such a gift. This is a very special Mother’s Day for you and your
    husband, ENJOY!!!!!!

  6. Sarah

    Congratulations to you and your husband, Julianne! Baby Dell is so cute and beautiful ♡♡♡ Wishing you and your now family of 3 the best 🙂

    Ps, do you have a few favorite names for him yet?

  7. Erin

    Congratulations to you and your husband, Julianne! Your baby boy is so adorable ♡ And I’m so glad you and your son are both healthy and that everything went so smoothly.

  8. mari white

    True! Blessing!! So happy for you and husband and Baby Dell!! New Mommy and Daddy will be wonderful parents to baby Dell ! Take one day at a time. Happy Mother’s day!🧡

  9. Sally Vose

    So happy that you have this wonderful bundle of joy and are enjoying this, your very first special Mother’s Day (2020)!! Congratulations to very happy parents. Blessings to you all.

  10. Reba Files

    Thank you for the detailed version leading up to and including the delivery of your first baby. I am 81 and it certainly brings back memories. Your happiness and excitement brings back memories of my own first baby. It was a girl – and she is taking care of me now. (Sort of) Her family moved back in with me when he got out of the service – with my 2 grandkids. It was supposed to be temporary but it worked out so well we bought a house together and have been happy together for 28 years. Now that I’m retired, they are keeping me up to date on technology so I stay pretty busy. My real passion has always been food and I look for new and better recipes and improvements on old ones all the time. I like to print out my recipes and catalog them so I can pass them down to family someday. My granddaughter got married last June and one of her gifts was a cookbook from me with recipes from everyone on both sides of their families. I included pictures of both families and a letter from each mother and grandmother. It was a hit with everyone. It actually took 2 large zippered notebooks to hold all the recipes and extras. When my grandchildren were born I started a journal for each of them – of our times spent together growing up and I gave it to them when they left home. And I did scrapbooking and put together a photo album of their growing up years for them to take with them.

    Just wanted to say congratulations and thanks for the pictures of your beautiful boy and family pictures. I’m praying for your health and safety during this time. I have not left home since Feb. 20 when I got my last perm. My daughter buys all my groceries when she goes and we are all healthy so far. Give the baby a hug for me.
    Reba

  11. Carol

    Happy 1st Mother’s Day!!! Little Dell is precious and congratulations to all of you. Enjoy these days and years as they do fly by fast. You will turn around and say where did those years go. My babies are 42 and 40.

  12. Linda

    Congratulations on the arrival on your beautiful bundle of joy. May you all be blessed with health and happiness always.
    Enjoy your first Mother’s Day.
    Regards,
    Linda from Australia.

  13. Francie

    Congratulations to You and your Husband! Thank you for sharing your story. It brought fond memories of the birth of my three children, which the oldest is 45.
    Happy Mother’s Day to You!

  14. Joanne Rayden

    Thank you for taking the time to share your story. Your son is so handsome. Enjoy every minute because the time will fly by. Before you know it you’ll be holding his hand and walking him into his first day of preschool. Joanne

  15. Anne Gollinott

    Julianne, Happy First Mother’s Day to you. Congratulations to you and your husband. The pictures of baby Dell are gorgeous, especially the picture of Dell looking into your husband eyes. Quite incredible! I wish you three all the best and please stay healthy.

  16. dezi

    Hi Julianne, Thank you so much for telling the story. It was good reading. I remember that I joined your site for the recipes, but your little boy is the most precious thing God gave you both. Take care and have a wonderful time with him. Dezi

  17. Anne Jones

    Congratulations to you both! So happy for you guys and he is such a beautiful baby! We miss having you as our neighbors and all the goodies you use to bring over,. Take care and all the good wishes in the world. Anne and Gary

    1. Beyond Frosting

      Aww hi Anne! Thank you so much for your kind words. We hope you and Gary are doing well. I loved seeing this sweet message. Take care

  18. Faith

    GOD BLESS you three with a joyous life! It has been so nice to follow you Julianne thru this pregnancy and listen to your hopes and dreams…,,they have come true sweet lady….every dream come true…with cream cheese icing ♥️🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳♥️Much love always,
    Faith Bruno
    Jupiter,Florida

  19. Linda Valente

    Little Dell is so beautiful! May you both Enjoy this time….it passes too quickly …little ones GROW so fast.

    Thank you for sharing your story…wishing much happiness.

  20. Pat

    Congratulations Julianne to you and your husband. Your baby boy is beautiful! You sound so chill about everything , which is amazing for a new mom and in this strange new world we are living in. I remember a great piece of advice from a nurse at the hospital when I gave birth to my son (my first child). She said, “Just love him and everything else will fall into place”. It was great advice. Happy Mother’s Day!

    1. Adaline

      Congratulations!
      Your son Dell is so beautiful and perfect👼
      Have a Happy 1st Mother’s Day and thank u for sharing your story

  21. Sharon

    Dear Julianne, soooo happy for you and your husband? dell is SO ADORABLE!!!! Don’t sweat the small stuff just love him to pieces😊

  22. Maureen Parrow

    HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO YOU AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL BABY. Also, congratulations to you and your hubby.

    May this day be the first of very many happy Mother’s Days.

    Love to all,

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